What is an idea for a new and exciting sexual position?

Answer :
All you have to do is get creative! Take the basics, and just move around a little, experimenting with wherever your body happens to end up. Put an arm or leg up, or down, or over. Try standing or sitting up during sex. Try doing it in a rocking chair instead of in bed, or even just on the sofa or on the floor. If you need some instruction about new positions, sex books can help. In fact, my book (The Complete Idiot Guide to Amazing Sex) has details and illustrations of some exotic positions. But I will give you a free preview here, of course. Try "The Crab." Here's what to do: The man lies flat on his back. The woman has her back to him, and faces away from him as she sits down on top of his penis, with her legs straddling the outside of his thighs. When the penis is inside her from behind, she leans back on her hands which are at his sides and then onto her feet, lifting up her body, and putting her head back, striving to face up toward the ceiling. In this crablike position, she almost looks like she is doing a back bend. OR try "The Wheelbarrow." In this tricky position, the man stands up while the woman is in front of him, upside down (as if she is about to do a hand stand) with her hands on the floor, and her feet around his waist or on his shoulders (depending on their height). He inserts his penis in her vagina from this position. Most people who try this are probably in for an adventure, just finding out if they can get into this position at all! Overall, have fun experimenting.

My penis is small. Please tell me what sex positions can make my girlfriend feel tighter during sex.

Answer :

Trial and error work best when you are trying to find the amount of pressure and friction that feel good to you and your partner during intercourse.

These variations on some common sex positions can usually snug things up:

1) Missionary: She tilts her pelvis down, aiming her vaginal opening toward the mattress, and holds her bent knees up toward her chest while keeping her head elevated on pillows. This will increase pressure against her vaginal walls and shorten her vaginal canal.

2) Sitting: You stand or kneel while she sits on the edge of the bed, sofa, or counter top. When you enter her you’ll be going up at a slight angle, so your penis should hit the top wall of her vagina. You’ll feel pressure and tightness as you hit that wall.

3) Doggy style: Enter her from behind, but open your legs and have her mostly close hers. Then have her angle her body down by resting her head and shoulders flat on the bed. This will help her feel tighter, or you feel bigger…however you prefer to look at it.

How To Talk to Your Partner About Your Sexual Issues or Concerns

Whether we are in a brand new relationship or have been married for forty years, when it comes to talking with our partners about sex, panic can often set in.

When we imagine the potential for rejection and drama, taking a risk like that with someone we love can often feel too great. This is probably the reason so few of us do try to share the really difficult stuff of our sexual lives. Here are ideas on raising those hard-to-raise issues.

Difficulty: Hard

Time Required: Allow as much time as possible.

Here's How:

1. Clarify the Issue for Yourself
   Sex is complicated, your feelings may have as much to do with your own baggage and history as with your partner. If something is on your mind, sit with it for a while and clarify what doesn’t feel right. Some people find that writing a helpful way to do this; others will talk with close friends. The point of this is not to start complaining to others or placing blame. The exercise is all about you and how you feel.
2. Try to Write it Down
   Don’t worry about floral language or grammar. Writing down what you want to talk about is a great step to clarify your issues for yourself and practice the way you might communicate it to your partner. Some people actually write their partner a letter, and end up giving it to them at a later point. Letter writing can be a powerful way to communicate your thoughts and feelings, and if done along with talking it can increase intimacy in a relationship in surprising ways.
3. Practice the Talk
   This doesn't work for everyone, but if you’re nervous about talking it can help to do some practice talking. If you have a good friend you can do this with, great. If not, going through it on your own can help. Before every major “talk” I’ve ever had to do, I sit down in front of my computer screen and practice. If my monitor could talk, it would probably tell me to get a life, but it’s a great tool for me (and I’m pretty sure my monitor is too old a model to be talking).
4. Consider Your Timing
   One of the most important considerations is when to talk. This will depend a lot on what you are talking about. If you want to raise the idea of trying something new in bed, then raising it just before you’re about to be intimate with your partner is probably not a good time. Ditto for raising your dissatisfaction with the frequency of your sex life minutes before your kids are due home (or your in-laws are coming over).

5. Choose Your Location
   As with timing, location can make a difference. Bringing up sexual dissatisfactions in bed can be a bad move as it may create an association of negativity in your bed. Both you and your partner may also feel more vulnerable in bed than you would having the conversation fully clothed, out for a late-night walk.
6. Allow Time for Processing
   Remember that your partner may be surprised by what you are saying. Give both of you the time and space to respond honestly without having to feel rushed or pressured. You may not be able to completely resolve the issue, or even talk about all the aspects of the issue in one sitting. Think about sexual communication as an ongoing process, not a one-shot deal.
7. Be Generous
   No matter how hard it is for you to bring up your sexual concerns, if you are the only one raising them, consider that it may be even harder for your partner. If you can, try to be generous with your partner and try not to place the blame too heavily on either of you. There are two of you in the relationship, and ultimately both of you need to take responsibility for what is happening.
8. Check In Afterwards
   Sometimes we can make ourselves so anxious about bringing something up with a partner, and then it goes not quite as bad as we thought, and we’re relieved, so we want to just move on. Give yourself permission to bring the topic up again. Don’t do it in a nagging way, but make it clear that your partner that you care about how they feel and you want to check in with them about how the conversation went.

Tips:

1. Keep in mind that every situation is different. These are general tips and your situation may call for many additional considerations.
2. Remember that your imagination can be your worst enemy when it comes to taking risks like this. The reality is that the response is almost never as bad as you think it will be, and talking openly about your sexual feelings, desires, likes and dislikes, can not only improve your sex life with your partner, it can improve other aspects of the relationship.

Sexual problems overview

Definition

Sexual problems are defined as difficulty during any stage (desire, arousal, orgasm, and resolution) of the sexual act, which prevents the individual or couple from enjoying sexual activity.

Information

Sexual difficulties may begin early in a person's life, or they may develop after an individual has previously experienced enjoyable and satisfying sex. A problem may develop gradually over time, or may occur suddenly as a total or partial inability to participate in one or more stages of the sexual act. The causes of sexual difficulties can be physical, psychological, or both.

Emotional factors affecting sex include both interpersonal problems and psychological problems within the individual. Interpersonal problems include marital or relationship problems, or lack of trust and open communication between partners. Personal psychological problems include depression, sexual fears or guilt, or past sexual trauma.

Physical factors contributing to sexual problems include:

• Injuries to the back
• An enlarged prostate gland
• Disease (diabetic neuropathy, multiple sclerosis, tumors, and, rarely, tertiary syphilis)
• Drugs, such as alcohol, nicotine, narcotics, stimulants, antihypertensives (medicines that lower blood pressure), antihistamines, and some psychotherapeutic drugs (used to treat psychological problems such as depression)
• Endocrine disorders (thyroid, pituitary, or adrenal gland problems)
  • Failure of various organs (such as the heart and lungs)
• Hormonal deficiencies (low testosterone, estrogen, or androgens)
• Nerve damage (as in spinal cord injuries)
• Problems with blood supply
• Some birth defects

Sexual dysfunction disorders are generally classified into four categories: sexual desire disorders, sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual pain disorders.

Sexual desire disorders (decreased libido) may be caused by a decrease in the normal production of estrogen (in women) or testosterone (in both men and women). Other causes may be aging, fatigue, pregnancy, and medications -- the SSRI anti-depressants which include fluoxetine (Prozac), sertraline (Zoloft), and paroxetine (Paxil) are well known for reducing desire in both men and women. Psychiatric conditions, such as depression and anxiety, can also cause decreased libido.

Sexual arousal disorders were previously known as frigidity in women and impotence in men. These have now been replaced with less judgmental terms. Impotence is now known as erectile dysfunction, and frigidity is now described as any of several specific problems with desire, arousal, or anxiety.

For both men and women, these conditions may appear as an aversion to, and avoidance of, sexual contact with a partner. In men, there may be partial or complete failure to attain or maintain an erection, or a lack of sexual excitement and pleasure in sexual activity.

There may be medical causes for these disorders, such as decreased blood flow or lack of vaginal lubrication. Chronic disease may also contribute to these difficulties, as well as the nature of the relationship between partners. As the success of Viagra attests, many erectile disorders in men may be primarily physical, not psychological conditions.

Orgasm disorders are a persistent delay or absence of orgasm following a normal sexual excitement phase. The disorder occurs in both women and men. Again, the SSRI antidepressants are frequent culprits -- these may delay the achievement of orgasm or eliminate it entirely.

Sexual pain disorders affect women almost exclusively, and are known as dyspareunia (painful intercourse) and vaginismus (an involuntary spasm of the muscles of the vaginal wall, which interferes with intercourse). Dyspareunia may be caused by insufficient lubrication (vaginal dryness) in women. There may also be abnormalities in the pelvis or the ovaries that can cause pain with intercourse. Vulvar pain disorders can also cause dyspareunia and inability to have intercourse due to pain.

Poor lubrication may result from insufficient excitement and stimulation, or from hormonal changes caused by menopause or breast-feeding. Irritation from contraceptive creams and foams may also cause dryness, as can fear and anxiety about sex.

It is unclear exactly what causes vaginismus, but it is thought that past sexual trauma such as rape or abuse may play a role. Another female sexual pain disorder is called vulvodynia or vulvar vestibulitis. In this condition, women experience burning pain during sex which may be related to problems with the skin in the vulvar and vaginal areas. The cause is unknown.

Sexual dysfunctions are most common in the early adult years, with the majority of people seeking care for such conditions during their late 20s through 30s. The incidence increases again in the perimenopause and postmenopause years in women, and in the geriatric population, typically with gradual onset of symptoms that are associated most commonly with medical causes of sexual dysfunction.

Sexual dysfunction is more common in people who abuse alcohol and drugs. It is also more likely in people suffering from diabetes and degenerative neurological disorders. Ongoing psychological problems, difficulty maintaining relationships, or chronic disharmony with the current sexual partner may also interfere with sexual function.

PREVENTION

Open, informative, and accurate communication regarding sexual issues and body image between parents and their children may prevent children from developing anxiety or guilt about sex, and may help them develop healthy sexual relationships.

Review all medications, both prescription and over-the-counter, for possible side effects that relate to sexual dysfunction. Avoiding drug and alcohol abuse will also help prevent sexual dysfunction.

Couples who are open and honest about their sexual preferences and feelings are more likely to avoid some sexual dysfunction. One partner should, ideally, be able to communicate desires and preferences to the other partner.

People who are victims of sexual trauma, such as sexual abuse or rape at any age, are urged to seek psychiatric advice. Individual counseling with an expert in trauma may prove beneficial in allowing sexual abuse victims to overcome sexual difficulties and enjoy voluntary sexual experiences with a chosen partner.

SYMPTOMS

• Men or women:
  • Inability to feel aroused
  • Lack of interest in sex (loss of libido)
  • Pain with intercourse (much less common in men than women)
• Men :
  • Delay or absence of ejaculation, despite adequate stimulation
  • Inability to control timing of ejaculation
  • Inability to get an erection
  • Inability to keep an erection adequately for intercourse
• Women:
  • Burning pain on the vulva or in the vagina with contact to those areas
  • Inability to reach orgasm
  • Inability to relax vaginal muscles enough to allow intercourse
  • Inadequate vaginal lubrication before and during intercourse
  • Low libido due to physical/hormonal problems, psychological problems, or relationship problems

CALL YOUR HEALTH CARE PROVIDER IF...

Call for an appointment with your health care provider if sexual problems persist and are a concern.

SIGNS AND TESTS

The health care provider will investigate any physical problems and conduct tests based on the particular type of sexual dysfunction you're experiencing. In any case, a complete medical history should be taken and physical examination should be done to:

• Highlight possible fears, anxieties, or guilt specific to sexual behaviors or performance
• Identify predisposing illness or conditions
• Uncover any history of prior sexual trauma

A physical examination of both the partners should include the whole body and not be limited to the reproductive system.

TREATMENT

Treatment depends on the cause of the sexual dysfunction. Medical causes that are reversible or treatable are usually managed medically or surgically. Physical therapy and mechanical aides may prove helpful for some people experiencing sexual dysfunction due to physical illnesses, conditions, or disabilities.

For men who have difficulty attaining an erection, the medication sildenafil (Viagra), which increases blood flow to the penis, may be very helpful, though it must be taken 1 to 4 hours before intercourse.

Men who take nitrates for coronary heart disease should not take sildenafil. Mechanical aids and penile implants are also an option for men who cannot attain an erection and find sildenafil isn't helpful.

Women with vaginal dryness may be helped with lubricating gels, hormone creams, and -- in cases of premenopausal or menopausal women -- with hormone replacement therapy. In some cases, women with androgen deficiency can be helped by taking testosterone. Kegel exercises may also increase blood flow to the vulvar/vaginal tissues, as well as strengthen the muscles involved in orgasm.

Vulvodynia can be treated with testosterone cream, with use of biofeedback and with low doses of some antidepressants which also treat nerve pain. Surgery has not been successful.

Behavioral treatments involve many different techniques to treat problems associated with orgasm and sexual arousal disorders. Self-stimulation and the Masters and Johnson treatment strategies are among the many behavioral therapies used.

Simple, open, accurate, and supportive education about sex and sexual behaviors or responses may be all that is required in many cases. Some couples may benefit from joint counseling to address interpersonal issues and communication styles. Psychotherapy may be required to address anxieties, fears, inhibitions, or poor body image.

PROGNOSIS AND OUTCOME

The prognosis (probable outcome) depends on the form of sexual dysfunction. In general, the probable outcome is good for physical dysfunctions resulting from treatable or reversible conditions. It should be noted, however, that many organic causes do not respond to medical or surgical treatments. Prolonged physical dysfunction can also create sexual dysfunction.

In functional sexual problems resulting from either relationship problems or psychological factors, the prognosis may be good for temporary or mild dysfunction associated with temporary stress or lack of accurate information. However, those cases associated with chronically-poor relationships or deep-seated psychiatric problems typically do not have positive outcomes.

COMPLICATIONS

Some forms of sexual dysfunction may cause infertility.

Persistent sexual dysfunction may cause depression in some individuals. The importance of the disorder to the individual (and couple, when applicable) needs to be determined. Decreased sexual function is important only if it is a cause of concern for the couple. Sexual dysfunction that is not addressed adequately may lead to conflicts or potential breakups.

Ananga Ranga Positions

Did you know that in the ancient Eastern cultures, sexual intercourse was believed to be a spiritual exercise on the way to enlightenment? Experiencing orgasms was essential to lifting the mind to a higher sense of being. Here are two more Ananga Ranga Positions to try out.

The Standing Swing

For this position to work, the man needs a strong back. If you have back problems, please do not attempt this position.

An easy way to try this is by having the woman stand on a chair or bed. The man then places his arms under the woman’s knees, and lifts her while supporting her legs on his inner elbows. Once she is at waist level, the woman will guide him into her, and then wraps her arms around his neck. The man locks his hands together and starts rocking or swinging the woman. This is a great position for G-Spot stimulation.

The opening Blossom

Here the woman lies on her back. She keeps her legs closed and straight as she lifts them up. The man then holds her legs up and enters her while sitting on his haunches. Penetration is deep and targets the G-Spot. The man can then press and release the woman’s thighs rhythmically for a tighter fit.

It is important to keep in mind that no matter what sex position you wish to try out, always be certain that your partner is comfortable with it too. It is important that both partners are having fun with these sex positions. The only way to ensure this is by always keeping the communication lines open between yourself and your partner.

Best position for woman

Wanting to please a woman sexually by helping her reach an orgasm is an art most men would truly love to master. The first step to this sexual journey is the willingness to learn and enjoy the moment, no matter how the journey ends.

An important aspect of lovemaking is that your partner must feel that she is the center of the universe. Everything that is happening is being done only to please her and nobody else.

Communication is extremely important during sex. A man who knows and understands his partner’s wants and needs through verbal and body language will no doubt be better equipped to help her reach unforgettable orgasms.

There are a number of sex positions that will let her feel that she is the center of the universe, as well as making her feel that she is in control, thus creating the best climate to achieve an orgasm;

Missionary Position (Man on top):

It may surprise many, but this is the position that is favored by most women. This is because visual, auditory and sensory communication can take place easily (which is extremely important for most women), allowing them to feel that they are being made love to.

Inverted Missionary Position (Woman on top):

In this position, the male partner lies on his back and his partner lies on top, facing him. She has total control over how far she is willing to be penetrated, and the rate of the thrust. Your partner can also decide if she would like to reach an orgasm by stimulating her clitoris or G-spot.

It is important to understand that everyone has different preferences when it comes to sexual tastes. Online sex guides are a great way to help you learn and understand the different ways of pleasing a woman sexually.

Though there are many online sex guide programs available, only a few really take the time to explain the art of making love in great depth.

Rock Hard Erections

If you are looking for rock hard erections, you can try an erection ring. An erection ring will help keep a hard erection for a longer amount of time. What a ring does is they work to constrict the blood flow from the penis which will keep the blood in the shaft of the penis.

From this is, when you are ready to ejaculate, you are going to have a more intense sensation. The real explosive intense sensation is the payoff of having a long rock hard erection.

There are many different erection rings on the market. When buying an erection ring, you have to make sure you have the right size. You don’t want an erection ring that fits too tight because this can cut off the circulation of blood through your penis. So make sure you get the proper size or look into adjustable rings.

Great rings for beginners are the adjustable ones that are made out of leather or rawhide. Whichever one you choose, just make sure it’s comfortable and easy to take off. And make sure if you buy one that is made out of metal, make sure it is not too tight.

Another, do not wear a metal erection ring to the airport if you are getting ready to travel by plane. The metal detectors will sound off. And you do not want to be in this embarrassing situation.

What pure enjoyment you and your partner are going to have with one of these, the erection ring. They are very popular and safe too. Instructions will come with your ring. Nothing complicated. Consider using one of these. They are great relationship enhancers and very spicy.

Warning: Do not decide to cut cost and use alternatives like rubber bands or binder clips to put on your penis as an erection ring. These are cheap and you will injure your penis.

Powerful Female Orgasms

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3 Kama Sutra Positions for Her

Interest for Kama Sutra will never die down, as people are continuing to find out what are the best Kama Sutra positions that they can adopt and enjoy wonderful sex with their lovers.
Let us just discuss 3 explosive Kama Sutra positions that can make your partner crave for more:

1. The Dog. This is the undisputed champion among all the other Kama Sutra positions. This position allows deep penetration and is able to stimulate the G-spot of the woman. The women will go down on all fours, taking her weights on her forearms. The man will then kneel down behind her, and penetrate her from the back. He will control the thrusting movement with his hip, and also be able to use his hands to caress the woman’s breasts.

2. Don’t Go. This position starts off with the man lying on his side, with the woman lying head to tail in the same way. She will then wrap both her legs around the man’s hips and rub her breasts against his legs. The man will control the thrusting movement and will find it very stimulating as he will also be able to caress her buttock and anal.

3. The Clip. The man will lie down on his back, with his leg outstretched. The woman will sit on top of him, allowing him to penetrate her. In this position, the woman will control the thrusting movement, while the man can stimulate her clitoris with his hand. It will be very relaxing for the man as he will just lie back and enjoy a clear view of his lover, while she continues thrusting.

These positions are highly stimulating and it is a must for you to learn how to execute them. Try them out with your lover and fine tune them to perfection.

Kama Sutra Positions

The Kama Sutra is a famous part of Sanskrit Literature and is considered to be the standard work on love. A part of the Kama Sutra tackles the sexual behaviors of human as well as describes the types of men and women, and provides a detailed description on positions used in love making. The love making positions described in the Kama Sutra have become interpreted in a Tantric way, making the positions relevant to a spiritual practice.

There are five basic positions in the Tantric interpretation of the Kama Sutra:

- Man lying on his back with the woman on top
- Woman lying on her back with the man on top
- Man and woman both lying on their sides facing each other
- Woman with her back to the man
- Man and woman in seated positions, typically facing each other

Each of these positions may have several variations and are said to bring a vast array of sensations to all the different couples that have tried them. Different individuals are more inclined to try different positions detailed in the Kama Sutra. These positions may be classified into larger groups such as Sitting positions, Rear Entry positions, Standing Positions, and Role Reversal positions.

Sitting positions of the Kama Sutra comes in different varieties but generally involves both man and woman in a sitting position. Some of the common positions are The Tortoise, The Moneky, Crushing Spices, Striking, The Foot Yoke, The Svastika, The Swing, The Knot of Fame, and Victory. All of these positions have corresponding Hindu names that best describe the poses involved.

Some of the Kama Sutra positions that allow for rear entry are the dog, the Deer, the Gardabha, the Cat, the Wrestler, Aibha, Hastika, The Stride, One knot, and the Nagabandha. All of these positions involve the woman with her back facing the man.

The Kama Sutra positions that require both man and woman to stand during the act of love making are the Churning Curds, Face to Face, the Swing, Traivikrama, Tripadam, Veshta, the Palm, two palms, and the Janukurpara or the Knee Elbow.

Some positions described in the Kama Sutra are referred to as a reversal of roles for both men and women. These positions include the Upasripta or Natural, the Manthana or Churning, The Hula which is also known as the Double edged Knife, the Avamardana or Rubbing, the Piditaka or Pressing, the Nirghata or the Buffet, the Varahaghata or the Boar’s Blow, the Vrishaghata or the Bull’s Blow, the Chatakavilasa which is also referred to as the Sparrow Sport, the Samputa or the Jewel Case, the Seat of Sport or Lilasana, the Swan, the Upavitika or Sacred Thread, the Reversed or Viparitaka, and the Foot Yoke.

The positions described in the Kama Sutra are not limited to those listed here. If by chance you are interested in improving your sex life and increasing the pleasure you give your partner, you may consult with this famous work and perhaps even apply the spiritual aspects detailed in the book.

How To Find The G-Spot

Are you pondering how to hit the G-spot successfully so that you will be able to make your lover achieves mind-blowing orgasms? G-spot is a very sensitive area in a woman, that when the right pressure is applied, she will be able to enjoy the sexual experience and achieve orgasms. To hit the G-spot successfully, you will first need to know where the G-spot is. To locate the G-spot, insert your index finger into your lover’s vulva, with your palm facing up. Then make a “come here” motion with your finger and you will be able to feel it.

Help her to tell you when you hit the right place. You can also know from the reaction from her face if you do it right. One thing to note is that the G-spot is sensitive to pressure, not just simple touches. A lot of men think that by just touching the G-spot, they can cause deep stimulation to their women.

So make sure you apply enough pressure so as to stimulate it. If you want to stimulate her even further, you can apply constant pressure on her G-spot and stimulate her clitoris at the same time. At the moment of time, your lover may have a sensation to pee. If it happens, do not worry, it is woman’s ejaculation. If not, then continue to stimulate her G-spot and help her to achieve orgasms.

To enhance your G-spot stimulation, you can try out to apply pressure on her G-spot at a different angle or dictate the pace of your stroke. Remember, touching her clitoris while you are applying pressure on her G-spot can make her to achieve orgasms quicker.

Foreplay Ideas

Steamy sex needs creative foreplay ideas. There are all kinds of foreplay ideas out there that it is almost impossible for you to run out of ideas. As you know, research has shown that foreplay plays an extremely important role to intensify orgasm and achieve great sex. Therefore, it is your responsibility to get as many foreplay ideas as possible so as to give your lover a fulfilled sexual experience every time.
I will now share with you 5 steamy foreplay ideas. Be sure to save them and compile into your own mini-foreplay ideas library:

Steamy Idea #1: Sex games. Playing sex games before sex is definitely a great way to build up the desire, passion and mood for sex. Sex games help to create anticipations for sex in your lover’s mind, which at the same time delaying the act of sex for greater desire and passion later on. There are lots of different sex games and ideas whereby you will not run out of any idea. You just have to look for them.

Steamy Idea #2: Sex toys. The power of sex toys has been underestimated by most couples. When sex toys are used together with story lines and videoing, they can bring up the most incredible sex that you and your lover can ever enjoy.

Steamy Idea #3: Role playing. Role playing can help to satisfy each other sexual fantasies, as well as bring fun and eroticism into the bedroom. A good role playing comes with a story plot obtained from books or pornography, whereby the both of you can act out every details of a steamy scene together. There are sex games which also allow you and your lover to role play, achieving more excitement and desire for sex.

Steamy Idea #4: Go slow. A good foreplay needs to be done slowly. Man is always eager to get “into” the woman, but women usually need time to be aroused and get into moods for sex. Kiss and caress every part of her body, as this will slowly get her into the mood for sex.

Steamy Idea #5: Kiss the right way. Fast and furious kisses may sometime spoil the mood for sex. Most women will not want to rush into sex so quickly. With kisses on neglected erogenous zones of hers, you will be turning her on gradually. Women love kissing during sex as it shows love and desire, therefore it will be wise for you to kiss the right way if you want to please her in bed.

The above are only just 5 foreplay ideas that you can use to increase your own sexual pleasures. Remember to gather as much information about foreplay ideas and games as you can so that you will never run out of ideas in the bedroom.

Going Down On A Woman

Are you having troubles on going down on a woman? Women love us to get down on them, as they will more likely to achieve orgasms by having men performing cunnilingus on them. Why miss this oportunity to satisfy her?
There are at least 8000 nerve endings on a woman’s clitoris. With something that sensitive, you better be sure about what you are doing before you go poking around with your tongue…

Performing a good cunnilingus on a woman is more than just placing your tongue on her clitoris and stimulates the surroundings. You need to understand the art of cunnilingus so as to avoid embarrassing and painful mistakes in the bedroom with your lover.

Cunnilingus is something every woman wants, which means that it is a must for every man to know how to do it well. It is your responsibility as a man to find out what are the right ways to perform cunnilingus. I believe that you do not need a manual to tell you what rewards that you will be getting if you are able to make your woman happy in bed.

When it comes to love making, it is definitely worth your time doing it, right? Anything worth doing is worth doing it right. Therefore, you should not let your lover and yourself down when it comes to doing something which is wanted by every woman.

To really satisfy your woman, whether she is your long-loving wife, or someone that you just met last night for a one-night stand, you need to know more than just the different love making positions that you can do with her.

Trust me; she will love you for it if you go down on her in the right way.

Does Size Matter for women?

Women are broadly divided into two categories. The first consists of those who treat men’s care about the penis size as an unpleasant obsession, showing our inferiority and barbarism rather than anything else. Some of them even feel that our strive to make our penises longer and boasting of the size is just a proof of our dominant nature as well as an subconscious and primitive attempt to subdue women. Besides, they say, the length has nothing to do with the pleasure – most nerves responsible for orgasm are located in the opening anyway.

Other women have quite different view of this matter. While they, too, consider concentration on one’s penis strange to say the least, they understand that (a) longer penis means also the increased girth – and it is the girth of penis that makes sex more enjoyable for women – and (b) that in the contemporary culture those men who are not well-gifted down there will sooner or later feel weaker, worse and frustrated with their small size. Even if the size itself is completely adequate for most women, the stress and frustration because of “having-it-too-small” problem may ruin their life and noticeably worsen their performance in bed.

With the constantly increasing number of men who want to increased their penis’ length, the industry was quick to follow. Nowadays there are dozens various methods of enlarging one’s penis. Various kinds of penis enhancement pills, penis pumps or phalloplasty (plastic surgery operation aimed at increasing the penis length) are but a few examples of what can be done to make your manhood longer. However, be warned: not all of those methods are accepted by women!

The truth is that many women feel repulsed by some of the methods men use to increase the size of their penises. Penis pumps, for example, are treated as a porn actor’s tool and most women sooner die that have sex with someone who used it. However, penis enhancement pills, especially those using natural herbal extracts, are generally endorsed by women as producing best and most natural effects.

Women accept herbal pills so easily because of the approach the supplement creators have taken while engineering the supplements. Instead of trying to force the penis to erect, they do their job by improving men’s health and smoothing the blood circulation in the penis, thus making erections last longer without any health risks. Besides, such herbs as Catuaba Bark Extract or Asian Red Ginseng are well-known herbs and women more or less understand how they affect men’s body.

Penis enlargement pills that rely on herbal extracts have also an additional strength: their positive influence on the overall penile health of a man. The increased erection they cause does not come from adrenaline boost, but from the fact that penis is healthier and stronger than ever before. Besides, the pills are known to help counter such negative penile health conditions as erectile dysfunctions or problems with impotence. More and more doctors encourage their patients to use them or even use them themselves to prevent any potential health problems from appearing.

While the size is extremely important, it is the overall effect of the penis enlargement method that matters. How does it affect your body as a whole? How does it help or hinder your performance? What are its effects in the long run? If you neglect it, you risk serious long-term penile health problems. If you want to care about yourself and your sex life, be happy, and satisfied with your life and performance, herbal supplements are about the only option you have.

Last Longer for better sex

How to Last Longer in bed and get much better sex!


Does the prospect of having sex sometimes seem too daunting just because of a history of unsatisfying experiences? Changing your sexual patterns may be a burning issue for you, a passing curiosity or perhaps you know someone that could benefit from this information. In any case I am sure you will find the following informative and interesting.

1. Slow down.

It may seem obvious, but the number one way to make sex last longer is to do everything slower.

Breathing, feeling, foreplay, kissing and intercourse are all parts of the sex act that do not need to be rushed.

2. Give everything time.

Every moment in sex is worth experiencing fully.

Let things unfold in their own time and you will be rewarded with richer experiences during sex and more learning and satisfaction from sex.

3. Deepen your breathing.

Our breath connects us deeply to our body and its rhythms, as well as the rhythm of other bodies near us.

Focusing on breathing also helps to quiet the mind and sooth any internal dialogue that may be interfering with our natural enjoyment of the sex.

Here’s a hint, try synchronising your deep slow breathing with your partner’s.

4. Let go of expectations.

Without expectations around sex, we are free to more naturally savour the experience … however it is!

We can be more open to the experience and learn more as a result.

Without expectations we free ourselves from disappointment.

Here’s a trick … see if you can implement these techniques to improve your sex, without caring whether they work!

5. Focus on pleasure in sex rather than the sex act or outcome.

Regardless of certain ideas of sex perpetuated in the world, sex is not about the ending, it is about the whole experience.

Getting the girl, having an orgasm, giving an orgasm … these are all important aspects of sex.

But the most important element of sex is pleasure!

When you start enjoying every moment of sex … it will go on as long as you want!

6. Increase knowledge of your body.

Take the time to understand what brings you pleasure and learn how to pleasure yourself better. Don’t forget to share your new knowledge with your partner too.

Read up about anatomy. The human body is amazing!

7. Increase knowledge of your partner’s body.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions and always be open to trying new things in bed. Explore every part of your partner’s body like you have never seen or touched it before.

Every time you engage in sex it is a perfect opportunity to expand your sexual knowledge.

You can learn a lot about the human body by asking friends about their experiences too.

8. Reframe sex as a nurturing healing act.

When we attach shame and guilt to sex it is no wonder that it doesn’t flow naturally. Adjust your mindset around sex to reflect only positive aspects.

Sex feels so good, how could a gift like this be anything other than healing!

9. Let go of performance anxiety.

Performance anxiety is unnecessary. Be kind to yourself. Learn to forgive yourself if things don’t go perfectly, and then learn to stop caring about perfect anyway.

10. Feel your body from within.

Our sensual experience can be deepened dramatically by focusing on our experience from within our body.

Get out of your head and let your consciousness move to the centre of your body.

11. Be present.

Don’t let the mind wander or engage in pointless internal chatter. Don’t let your fantasies and thoughts take you further from the experience at hand.

Be in the present experience and the present moment.

So there you have it. Any of these tips individually can start to impact on your sexual performance right now. If you learn them all, you will be a master of your body in and out of the bedroom.

Don’t be daunted if it takes a little time though … these are life changing techniques and may take a bit of practice.

And most importantly of course, enjoy yourself practising!!

Love, Mukee

The Best Sexual Positions?

Heres the Top 5 Mistakes Guys Make when choosing which position to make love in !!


One of the many challenges men have is to decide on what positions to use when getting booty. The biggest fears are that the woman will get bored with the “same old, same old” and as a result lose interest in sex. So the question becomes, what are the best sexual positions? The best way to explain this is to talk about what NOT to do. With that in mind, I’ll now talk about the top five mistakes guys make when it comes to sexual positions, so that way you won’t continue making them.

Position Mistake 1: Imitating anything seen in a porn movie. This is probably the biggest reason that guys fail with sexual positions. Inexperienced guys think porn is a good model because they see studs banging beautiful broads, andÖ well, they just don’t know any better. The problem is that sexual positions in those sorts of movies are meant to display a good scene for viewers, not to maximize pleasure for the actors.

And in fact, one of the WORST positions for clitoral and vaginal stimulation is when the woman puts her ankles on your shoulders. With her pelvis bent back that far, she can feel pain in her cervix if you push in too far. Plus it’s a position that puts pressure. (If you ever have a chance to go behind the scenes and watch the making of an adult movie, you’ll see how quickly the mood gets killed when the actress keeps having to stop the scene to go to the bathroom!)

Position Mistake 2: Trying too hard to keep your weight off the woman, in any position. To a woman, sex is a way to get closer to her man. She loves it when he leans on the underside of her thighs. So here’s a tip for you to try… Next time you’re having sex with your woman (while you’re engaged in actual intercourse, that is), get more of your weight on her. You see, during sex, almost every woman enjoys feeling her man’s body pressed hard against her.

So how much weight should you put on her? Make it enough so that after you come, and the sexual frenzy dissipates, your woman will tell you that she feels like she’s being smooshed. Of course, do this within limits! If you’re on top off her grinding her pubic bone for too long, it can feel painful for her.

But the bottom line is that many, many women like to be pressured by at least some of the man’s weight. So save the gentlemanly sex for the royal family’s women!

Position Mistake 3: Letting the woman do all the work when she’s on top. For virtually every woman, sex is mostly a passive activity. So by being the motionless beta male, you destroy the whole purpose of sex for her, which is to open herself up to you penetrating into her body.

Position Mistake 4: Being a wimp. A lot of guys have read too many “Men are From Mars”-type books and think women like it if you ask permission for everything and let them take the lead. Be the alpha male instead and just “do it.” Flip her over, move her here and there. Be aggressive and even toss her about like a rag doll when you want to change positions, and… she’ll LOVE it! And don’t worry about it. If something is going on that the woman doesn’t like, she’ll let you know.

Position Mistake 5: Thinking the trickier positions are better. You don’t need to be upside down, hanging from a lamp, and doing something crazy. Just be normal. An old standby like the missionary (man on top, woman lying on her back) can be the best sexual position.

Tricky positions are just frustrating for everybody and often kill the mood because there’s too much “where should I put my arm?”… and not enough “let’s just have fun exploring.”

Sex advice: The art of a good blowjob

The art of giving a real good blowjob. Applying your lips and mouth to a man’s penis with the purpose of giving him pleasure is called a blowjob, fellatio, giving head… A good blowjob will not only give him immense pleasure but can also be extremely empowering for the giver. Real good oral sex consist of: Technique, enthusiasm and variety, lets look at how these all can combine to Give your partner a mind blowing orgasm !!

Performing the act

The lips and the tongue are the tools of stimulation in oral sex. While practice makes perfect, here are some basic tips on how to improve your oral sex technique.

Be careful first

Be careful with your teeth to prevent hurting your partner suck in your lips to remove the problem of your teeth grazing or nicking him. If you’re unsure of your partner’s sexual history be safe and use a condom. Oral sex gives more pleasure without a condom, but think of your own health and don’t take risks.

Condoms

Condoms can however be quite fun especially if you try some flavored condoms and apply a water-based lubricant to the penis before you put on the condom which will increase the pleasure given from fellatio.

Enthusiasm

One of the main ingredients to giving your partner pleasure is enthusiasm, let him know you are enjoying it to and this will make him even more excited. Your partner will want to know you are not just doing it to please him. He will want to know you enjoy as well!

Variety

Don’t always use technique, as surprise is a great weapon when trying to arouse him during fellatio, this means using your imagination and plenty of variety, keep him guessing as to what pleasure is in store next!

Basic tips for great fellatio

1. Use eye contact while sucking him; watch his expression as he receives pleasure.

2. Try and lick the whole length of his penis, and the ridge where the head joins the length, called the corona. This is the most sensitive part of his penis. Follow this ridge around to the underside. There’s a juncture where the two ends come together. This tiny area is the equivalent of the women’s clitoris so make sure you target it

3. Use your breath blow gently with your hot breath all over the penis this is an incredible way of getting him warmed up and hard before you start licking and sucking but can be used at any time as a tease.

4. Lick his scrotum or try drawing both of his balls in your mouth.

Use one hand to circle the top of the scrotum, and gently pull it down bringing the testicals together and place into your mouth. Also lick his testicles as well most men love this

8. Use your hands on the penis as well in addition to licking and sucking, using firm strokes will heighten his pleasure

9. Take the penis as far as you want to. Then close your eyes and concentrate. If you are unused or nervous of how far you can take it try the following: Very slowly ease the penis in taking it a bit at a time, until it’s all in. By doing it slowly you will overcome the problem many women have and you will not gag.

10. To give a BJ is not just about putting a penis in your mouth; you need to use your tongue to stimulate the head as well. Try alternating between sucking and licking with your tongue.

Of course, how you perform the above the order enthusiasm etc you put in will be reflected in the pleasure your partner receives. Keep in mind the following to give him a mind blowing orgasm

1. Be uninhibited.

Women exert considerable control over their partner’s aroused, erect penis and it is important to be uninhibited and enjoy fellatio.

While you can start slowly, the best way to satisfy your partner is to exert more pressure as you progress.

Really try and get into and concentrate on what you are doing, free your mind and you will provide a massive amount of pleasure

2. Tease him

Giving good fellatio is not just about using your mouth! Use your hands and also tease him with your responses as well. Run your hands over his chest, legs and touch his behind, gently cup his testicles and fondle them. You can also run your hand up and down the penis length as you use your mouth to heighten the experience.

Make sure you show him you are enjoying it as well, by stimulating yourself, moaning and talking to him about the pleasure it’s giving you.

Bringing it to conclusion.

Once he’s fully aroused and heading towards what will be a satisfying orgasm, its time to bring things to a conclusion.

Use gentle but firm suction and use an up and down motion with your head to move him towards hopefully a mind blowing orgasm.

Keep in mind enthusiasm, variety and expectation, combined with practice… but its practice you will enjoy

The Kama Sutra: 29. Ways to loose a man

When a woman has to choose between two lovers, one of whom was formerly united with her, while the other is a stranger, the Acharyas (sages) are of the view that the first one is preferable, because his disposition and character being already known by previous careful observation, he can be easily pleased and satisfied; but Vatsyayana thinks that a former lover, having already spent a great deal of his wealth, is not able or willing to give much money again, and is not therefore to be relied upon so much as a stranger. Particular cases may however arise, differing from this general rule on account of the different natures of men.

There are also verses on the subject as follows: ‘Reunion with a former lover may be desirable so as to separate some particular woman from some particular man, or some particular man from some particular woman, or to have a certain effect upon the present lover.’

When a man is excessively attached to a woman, he is afraid of her coming into contact with other men; he does not then regard or notice her faults; and he gives her much wealth through fear of her leaving him.

A courtesan should be agreeable to the man who is attached to her, and despise the man who does not care for her. If while she is living with one man, a messenger comes to her from another man, she may either refuse to listen to any negotiations on his part, or appoint a fixed time for him to visit her, but she should not leave the man who may be living with her and who may be attached to her.

A wise woman should only renew her connection with a former lover if she is satisfied that good fortune, gain, love and friendship are likely to be the result of such a reunion.

The Kama Sutra: 28. Change in feelings

A woman should always know the state of the mind, of the feelings, and of the disposition of her lover towards her, from the changes of his temper, his manner, and the color of his face.

The behavior of a waning lover is as follows: he gives the woman either less than is wanted, or something else than that which is asked for; he keeps her in hopes by promises; he pretends to do one thing, and does something else; he does not fulfill her desires; he forgets his promises, or does something else than that which he has promised; he speaks in private with the attendants of a woman with whom he was formerly acquainted.

Now when a courtesan finds that her lover’s disposition towards her is changing, she should get possession of all his best things before he becomes aware of her intentions, and allow a supposed creditor to take them away forcibly from her in satisfaction of some pretended debt. After this, if the lover is rich, and has always behaved well towards her, she should ever treat him with respect; but if he is poor and destitute she should get rid of him as if she had never been acquainted with him in any way before.

The means of getting rid of a lover are as follows: describing the habits and vices of the lover as disagreeable and censurable, with the sneer of the lip, and the stamp of the foot; speaking on a subject with which he is not acquainted; showing no admiration for his learning, and passing a censure upon it; putting down his pride; seeking the company of men who are superior to him in learning and wisdom; showing a disregard for him on all occasions; censuring men possessed of the same faults as her lover; expressing dissatisfaction at the ways and means of enjoyment used by him; not giving him her mouth to kiss;

refusing access to her jaghanai i.e. the part of the body between the navel and the thighs; showing a dislike for the wounds made by his nails and teeth; not pressing close up against him at the time when he embraces her; keeping her limbs without movement at the time of congress; desiring him to enjoy her when he is fatigued; laughing at his attachment to her; not responding to his embraces; turning away from him when he begins to embrace her; pretending to be sleepy; going out visiting, or into company, when she perceives his desire to enjoy her during the day time; misconstructing his words; laughing without any joke,

or at the time of any joke made by him; laughing under some pretence; looking with side glances at her own attendants, and clapping her hands when he says anything; interrupting him in the middle of his stories, and beginning to tell other stories; reciting his faults and his vices, and declaring them to be incurable; saying words to her female attendants calculated to cut the heart of her lover to the quick; taking care not to look at him when he comes to her; asking him what cannot be granted; and, after all, finally dismissing him.

There are also two verses on this subject as follows: ‘The duty of a courtesan consists in forming connections with suitable men after due and full consideration and attaching the person with whom she is united to herself; in obtaining wealth from the person who is attached to her, and then dismissing him after she has taken away all his possessions’.

A courtesan leading in this manner the life of a wife is not troubled with too many lovers, and yet obtains abundance of wealth.

When a courtesan is resolved to take up again with a former lover, her Pithamarda and other servants should tell him that his former expulsion from the woman’s house was caused by the wickedness of her mother; that the woman loved him just as much as ever at that time, but could not help the occurrence on account of her deference to her mother’s will; that she hated the union of her present lover, and disliked him excessively. In addition to this, they should created confidence in his mind by speaking to him of her former love for him, and should allude to the mark of that love that she has ever remembered. This mark of her love should be connected with some kind of pleasure that may have been practiced by him, such as his way of kissing her, or manner of having connection with her.

Thus end the ways of bringing about a reunion with a former lover.

The Kama Sutra: 27. The means of getting money

Money is got out of a lover in two ways visibly natural or lawful means, and by artifices. Old authors are of the view that when a courtesan can get as much money as she wants from her lover, she should not make use of artifice. But Vatsyayana lays down that though she may get some money from him by natural means, yet when she makes use of artifice he gives her doubly more, and therefore artifice should be resorted to for the purpose of extorting money from him at all events.

Now the artifices to be used for getting money from her lover are as follows: taking money from him on different occasions, for the purpose of purchasing various articles, such as ornaments, food, drink, flowers, perfumes and clothes, and either not buying them, or getting from him more than their cost; praising his intelligence to his face; pretending to be obliged to make gifts on occasion of festivals connected with vows, trees, gardens, temples, or tanks; pretending that at the time of going to his house, her jewels have been stolen either by the king’s guards, or by robbers; alleging that her property has been destroyed by fire, by the falling of her house, or by the carelessness of her servants; pretending to have lost the ornaments of her lover along with her own;

causing him to hear through other people of the expenses incurred by her in coming to see him; contracting debts for the sake of her lover; disputing with her mother on account of some expenses incurred by her for her lover, and which were not approved of by her mother; not going to parties and festivities in the houses of her friends for the want of presents to make to them, she having previously informed her lover of the valuable presents given to her by these very friends; not performing certain festive rites under the pretence that she has no money to perform them with; engaging artists to do something for her lover; entertaining physicians and ministers for the purpose of attaining some object; assisting friends and benefactors both on festive occasions, and in misfortune;

performing household rites; having to pay the expenses of the ceremony of marriage of the son of a female friend; having to satisfy curious wishes during her state of pregnancy; pretending to be ill, and charging her cost of treatment; having to remove the troubles of a friend; selling some of her ornaments, so as to give her lover a present; pretending to sell some of her ornaments, furniture, or cooking utensils to a trader, who has been already tutored how to behave in the manner; having to buy cooking utensils of greater value than those of other people, so that they might be more easily distinguished, and not changed for others of an inferior description; remembering the former favors of her lover, and causing them always to be spoken of by her friends and followers;

informing her lover of the great gains of other courtesans; describing before them, and in the presence of her lover, her own great gains, and making them out to be greater even than theirs, though such may not have been really the case; openly opposing her mother when she endeavors to persuade her to take up with men with whom she has been formerly acquainted, on account of the great gains to be got from them; lastly, pointing out to her lover the liberality of his rivals.

Thus ends the ways and means of getting money.